Risk

Risk Grief & Loss Recovery / Day 85 Remember the early days of summer as a child? The air was just beginning to get warm, the sun didn’t yet have the strength to burn our skin (or so we thought at the time) – but the water was still cold. Whether it was lake...

If not now…Then when?

If not now...Then when? Grief & Loss Recovery Day 84 Life is not to be wasted; rather it is to be savoured. All experiences, both good and bad, joyous and sorrowful, can be woven together into a rich tapestry reflecting the power of the ‘human experience.’ Take...

Finding Peace

Finding Peace - Grief & Loss Recovery Day 83 All living beings have the same basic wish to be happy and avoid suffering, but very few people understand the real causes of happiness and suffering. We generally believe that external conditions such as food, friends,...

Embracing Trust

Embracing Trust

Grief & Loss Recovery - Day 82 I have never been one who takes risks, who steps out and trusts that I am being taken care of, no matter what. This ‘fearfulness’ has characterised my life; but, now – as I reach my 50s – I am finally…slowly…learning to let go of...

Keeping A Refuge Within

Keeping A Refuge Within

Grief & Loss Recovery - Day 81 One of my favourite books when I was growing up was the children’s classic, The Secret Garden, by Frances Hodgson Burnett. The young heroine discovers just that, a secret garden where she can take refuge from her deep emotional...

Find just one pleasant thought

Find just one pleasant thought

Grief & Loss Recovery - Day 80 John Ruskin, the 19th century writer, wrote most eloquently when he penned: “Make yourselves nests of pleasant thoughts! None of us yet know, for none of us have been taught in early youth, what fairy palaces we may build of...

Reaching For Joy

Reaching For Joy

Grief & Loss Recovery - Day 79 When you are in the middle of grief, how can you possibly reach for joy? Joy is discovered in the peaceful quiet of a soul at rest. Alongside our restlessness for change, we have a need for relaxation and recreation. We won’t fully...

Compassion

Compassion

Grief & Loss Recovery Day 78 Compassion is a feeling deep within us — almost a quivering of the heart. It is also a way of acting — being affected by the suffering of others and moving on their behalf. Buddha and Jesus are the most well known exemplars of...

Let Go Of Expectations

Let Go Of Expectations

Grief & Loss Recovery - Day 77 There is no set time limit to grieving. It’s not something that can be measured in terms of time spent; rather it is measured in the intensity of feeling, at any given time. Let me tell you a story, about our dear cat, Jaffa. He...

Walking Away The Sorrows

Walking Away The Sorrows

Walking Away The Sorrows Grief & Loss Recovery - Day 76 Our summer holiday home runs along the river. It is the favourite spot for joggers, runners, dog walkers, and mothers with buggy’s; when the weather is nice, they are out in force, enjoying the scenery....

Healing Food

Healing Food

Healing Food Grief & Loss Recovery - Day 75 I love chocolate. And, I adore salad with topside of beef. Thinly sliced. What is your chosen “comfort” food to make for others, or to nourish your own spirit? Maybe it’s Chocolate crispy cake, made for the grandkids –...

Naturally Diminishing Grief

Naturally Diminishing Grief

Naturally Diminishing Grief Grief & Loss Recovery - Day 74 While time does ease the suffering of those in grief, it must be time well spent. Just as a very graphic example: staying drunk for days, weeks or months may pass the time, but the hours spent numbed by...