Your Healing Begins With Your Story

Grief shatters life as you know it; the challenge is in putting it back together. Tell me what happened, how you feel. Let’s look at your relationships and who you are as a result. I will listen, sit with you in compassionate presence as you uncover your own personal skills, and guide you through this transition. You can rebuild your life into a comfortable shape while honouring your connections to the past. I can help you find your way back to wholeness.
Loss can be transformed.
Difficult times help us grow.
I specialise in grief with all its nuances and have personal experience with death. Through narrative, creative exploration and other techniques, you can re engage in your own life fully while connecting with love you shared.
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1 to 1 Grief & Loss Mentoring

Grieving provides a powerful opportunity for spiritual growth. We shouldn’t seek it out for this reason—all of us will have enough opportunities for mourning, without seeking it. But supporting a grieving person’s spiritual growth is another valid goal of energy work for the bereaved. Personally, I believe that deep grief prepares us for greater service to others. Having experienced profound loss, we can be more compassionate to others. We feel our connection to the rest of humanity. We open to the non-material world. We shed our masks and reassess our lives and what is truly important to us. We are prepared for growth. Since grieving is something none of us can avoid, it is good to know that there can be spiritual gifts in it. Grief is meant to move through us, not get stuck in our energy field or our physical body.

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My Grief Journal

Journalling is possibly one of the most simple but profound tools out there for enhancing your well-being on every level (mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual). In fact, journalling is such a useful practice that I recommend in the articles I publish throughout my site and to those I mentor privately. When it comes to self-growth and spiritual maturation, journalling is probably one of the top 5 practices I recommend to everyone, no matter how good a person is at writing or not. My Grief Journal contains gentle prompts to help you identify, accept and work through your feelings at a time when clarity seems impossible. When it comes to journalling, there’s nothing to master but your own ability to be self aware. With the Grief Journal comes access to a private Facebook Group where you can find a safe space to “just be”.

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Grieving Mindfully

Coming soon…

This is why I do what I do.

Because I have been there. I have struggled, been on my knees, cried all night until the tears couldn’t flow anymore. I have also been there for many more in the trenches and seen them struggle.

I am a highly sensitive person and have an incredible amount of empathy for others. I can sense what others are seeing and feeling and see their perspectives without even trying. I don’t have to agree with other people’s perspectives but I have respect for them. Instinctively, I understand people.
I believe things happen for a reason, we are all connected to our pasts, presents, future and to each other. My faith is strong and there is purpose beyond our daily lives. This is my purpose. What we create in our homes, in our lives, directly affects others around us.
I am a huge communicator. I want to inspire others to help themselves. I want the information is produce to be available to others so they can have access to tools that can help them achieve a higher state of emotional wellness, strength and peace.
I heal, I guide, I teach. I create balance, I create peace. I help you help yourself, sometimes from yourself. I do this for myself, my children, and for you. By loving and serving you, I am loving and serving myself, my beliefs and my family.
Peace and love
Judy.

You might think that coping with your own grief is nigh on impossible. I know that words from others don’t give you any comfort, and I know first hand that there is no quick fix for a broken heart. In addition to your intensely overwhelming sadness, you feel vulnerable often, you are disorientated, and emotionally battered. You feel like you have little energy to invest in coping with the immense pain of loss, and you wonder how you would even go about finding the strength and energy for that in the first place.

This is where I come in. I have been in your shoes. I have experienced it all. Then some.

Firstly, there is no right or wrong way to cope with grief, just as long as you are NOT causing yourself harm. Grief is a natural process that all of us experience in our own way, in our own time, and at our own pace. Time does not heal grief. It is what you do with your time that matters.

How do I cope with my grief? I cope by using the daily practice of Mindfulness. You know, it really doesn’t matter if you have never even heard of what Mindfulness is. I will show you. Do you know when most people find out about what Mindfulness is? They tend to find out when they are experiencing a tough time in their lives, that’s when. Practicing Mindfulness during your grief is not about whitewashing your pain, or getting over your loss. It is about learning how to stay present, cultivating compassion, and making conscious wise choices that will help you cope with this new normal known as life after loss.

If you are ready, and you wish to heal and move forward then click the work with me tab above. I am holding out my hand and ready to guide you.

You are more than a survivor. It is time for you to Embrace Life again

Here are my latest blog posts below. Let me know what you think, and if there is anything you would like me to cover then please let me know. 

Risk

by | Mar 26, 2019 | Grief, mental health, Rituals, Spirituality | 0 Comments

Risk Grief & Loss Recovery / Day 85 Remember the early days of summer as a child? The air was just beginning to get warm, the sun didn’t yet have the strength to burn our skin (or so we thought at the time) – but the water was still cold. Whether it was lake water, or...

If not now…Then when?

by | Mar 26, 2019 | Grief, mental health, Rituals, Spirituality | 0 Comments

If not now...Then when? Grief & Loss Recovery Day 84 Life is not to be wasted; rather it is to be savoured. All experiences, both good and bad, joyous and sorrowful, can be woven together into a rich tapestry reflecting the power of the ‘human experience.’ Take some...

Finding Peace

by | Mar 26, 2019 | Grief, mental health, Rituals, Spirituality | 0 Comments

Finding Peace - Grief & Loss Recovery Day 83 All living beings have the same basic wish to be happy and avoid suffering, but very few people understand the real causes of happiness and suffering. We generally believe that external conditions such as food, friends,...

My testimonials from lovely ladies that I have helped.

Thank you Judy, and your three miracles, for Surviving Grief. You have helped me immensely through a very dark time after I left my husband. I felt so miserable and soooo very alone. When I found your page it was like a life line had been handed to me. The life line extended down into the depths of my despair and pulled me through. I no longer felt so alone, and felt your love and caring all the way over here in New Zealand. The four of you, reaching out to me, saved me, in a way. I’m not quite healed yet. My counselor tells me it takes at least two years to feel fully healed. I take comfort in knowing that Surviving Grief with the four miracles that run it, will continue to be there for me. Helen Hardman

Judy has envisioned a way to not only help herself and her children but to help others too. She shows us that you don’t need to merely survive tragedy, loss or any obstacle that meets us head on in our lives. Judy shows us that there is a way to emerge on the other side stronger in spirit and soul. She helps to place us on a path of guidance and acceptance of our own circumstances and helps us realise that our path is one that is shared and embraced by us all who have experienced similar circumstances.  Judy helps us to live happier and more fulfilling lives . Judy is an inspiration. She is my confidante, my counselor and more importantly my friend. We share, we feel, we cry,  we laugh, we hope, we reflect. My life wouldn’t be the same without Judy in it. Kimmy Rafferty

I am proud to be a facilitator of the Give us a Break! programme. Give us a Break! is an 8 week programme, written for young people aged 10-14 years who are coping with negative change in their lives. The programme acknowledges that loss and grief are a normal part of life and are experienced uniquely by each individual. It supports young people in managing the emotional consequences of loss.